My family doesn't understand me and its killing me?

Hai. I listen to different music and act differently. I hate country, but ill basically listen to anything else but the stuff i listen to on a daily basis is weird. No im not "emo" and anyone who claims to be is a poser. I am very hyper all the time and blurt random things , and act weird. i don't know if you can see it but oh well. I asked my mom if i could dye my hair red and she says no. I understand she might not like it so i suggested semi-permanent , still no. Okay so i asked why, she replies with- People will look at you like you're a freak, its sends a bad message. I'm not mad she wont let me dye my hair, im mad she would say that people who express themselves are freaks and sends bad messages. Im weird i know i dont want red hair to show it i want red hair simply because i want red hair. I can wait until i am 18. She doesnt understand that if i get some freedom now, i wont be overwhelmed later and do drugs or do somthing i'll forget. I sort of feel like i am in the wrong. I just want to be myself and not be judged my family. I feel bad knowing theres worse and im complaining over why i cant be who i want to be. Any advice.?